Physical Relationship and Marital Life

Marital life is filled with its own share of highs and lows. Despite all the ups and downs, the marital bond is a beautiful one. It gives a sense of togetherness and security which no other relationships give. The relationship between the couple start to grow with immense love and care for each other in the marriage. The closeness is so strong that you can almost predict each other’s reactions. There are some romantic moments which can never be forgotten. But the marriage is no smooth sailing ship. It has to be worked on by the couple. It takes some conscious effort from both the husband and the wife to make it work.

Physical relationship is another very important aspect of a marriage. A healthy physical relationship goes a long way in keeping the foundations of the marriage strong. Though there is always a debate on how much does the physical relationship really contribute to the marriage in the long run, research actually states that especially in the early years of the marriage, physical bonding is important too to make the marriage last. Let us take a glance at what makes a marriage tick.

How to select the partner?

Well, this is the most difficult aspect of the marriage. The problems involved in marriage or otherwise depend on this. Most of those who want to tie the nuptial knot these days have known that special someone since four or more years. Some questions which you need to ask before deciding on the big issues are listed below. Be frank with yourself.

How old is your prospective spouse:

Age plays an important role in your relationship. Studies reveal that man mature later than women. There is a gap of two years between the maturing time of men and women. In simple words, a twenty five years old man and twenty three years old women will have the same mental maturity. This is one factor. Love sometimes blossoms without warning between a man and a woman with an age gap of more than fifteen years. Now this is a case which needs some serious thinking. Chances are more that after a certain point of time, you may start to feel that the older person does not have the same drive and energy as you do. You may no longer think on the same lines. This might become boring and the marriage could be on the rocks. Even the physical bonding may not be on the same plane. On the other hand, dealing with a mature man has its advantages too. Your guy could be very mature, understanding and practical because he has faced the world and its vagaries fifteen years more than you. Whatever may be the case, simply ask yourself if you love the person enough to overlook his mistakes and negative points and lead a healthy married life with him. If your answer after thinking is a whole hearted yes, then you will be happily married. If there is even a small doubt, don’t jump into conclusions. Talk it over with the person you wish to marry and things could look much clearer after the discussion is over.

Caring for each other:

The future together with your spouse seemed so happy and peaceful. Why is it that the marriage is actually painting a different picture altogether? Worry not. All the couples go through this phase in their marriage. The basic difference is in the way they care for each other or express their love. One must always remember that the way one expresses his love and affection may be very different from the other. For example, women express it by doing small things like cooking a great meal. Men express it by buying her a great washing machine when all that she expects is bunch of roses. Misunderstandings ruin the marriage. When a man is quiet, it means he is solving a problem in his head. When a woman is quiet, it is because she is worried to death and cannot wait to spill it all out to her spouse. So the woman interprets the man’s aloofness to be a sign of being disturbed and tries to make him talk. And when he doesn’t, she feels hurt. So try and understand the basic dynamics of man-woman communication to improve things in the marriage. The book ‘Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus’ by John Gray is a wonderful book which helps both men and women in understanding the opposite sex better.

Managing marriage and a successful career:

This one requires lot of effort but is easy. Spend all the leisure time you have away from work with each other. Even during a busy day, take the time to send a romantic SMS or just call to say a Hi. These are small things that go into making a great marriage. At the end of the day, discuss the day’s proceedings with the spouse. This might sound loony, but catching a great cartoon together can make you laugh. Studies show that laughing together can actually strengthen the bond.

Reasons for having a physical relationship together:

There are many reasons attributed to the lack of a sex life in marriage. This could possibly be because of different work timings. If one partner is involved in a night shift and the other works during the day time, a dormant sex life is inevitable. These couples must take special time off for action under the sheets. A healthy sex life is very important for the marriage to work. Another reason could be that one of the partners involved feels insecure of giving. Remember that making love should be done with the intention of giving pleasure to the partner and not to satiate one’s own needs. With this idea in place, physical relationship can be long lasting and healthy.

Factors affecting a physical relationship:

Many external factors affect physical relationship. Excessive cigarette smoking and alcohol consumption is believed to make men impotent and women less fertile. Not just this, cigarette smoking reduces the sperm count in men. Constant exposure to gizmos like digital notebooks and mobile phone damage the uterus walls making it difficult for the woman to bear off springs. This could prove to be detrimental to the relationship between both the partners. Work pressures too contribute to this problem. Too much of work in the mind does not allow the person to open up to the spouse. Constant work pressures and increased work load leaves the person feeling tired and drained.

Importance of physical fitness:

As much as we’d like to believe beauty is only skin deep, no one would be too keen to wed a guy or girl with beautiful intestines, stunning lungs and equally charming liver! So men and women get rid of the ‘beauty is skin deep’ philosophy. Agreed that physical beauty should not be the only parameter to measure someone’s worthiness, but being attractive adds the special spark to the marriage. Take time to groom yourself. There are many parlours mushrooming in every corner of the city. Pay a visit to one of them and get pampered. It works. Work out at least thirty minutes every day to stay fit. If you could take time to work out together, that would be better. If not, working out independently will make you smart, fit and more importantly healthy. Do take time out for your partner for only love, care and time spent with your partner makes the marriage click.

Marriage is no bed of roses. To scale the heights and withstand the lows of marriage requires patience, understanding and most importantly love for this was what brought the couple together. It is important that the couple accept each other for what they are. At the end of the day a perfect marriage, one that is built on the strong foundation of trust is about spending a lifetime together of sharing and caring. Embark on this beautiful journey of marriage with an open mind and an open heart to give infinite love and it is assured that one would have a lifetime enriched with beautiful experiences of togetherness and a strong bond.